Sense of Humor and Being Mature

[natural_selection7]

Hi guys. This is just my 1st post.

We all know that having a sense of humor is essential in attracting woman. It is a plus to be able to make
a girl laugh, and it creates a romantic interest. At the same time, being mature is essential in order to earn the
respect of a woman.

But I've been having a hard time setting the line between maturity and humor. I mean having a sense of humor
means being funny, sarcastic, and enthusiastic guy. While being mature means being subtle and calm.

Having a sense of humor has an "active", "exciting", and "warm" feeling to its very definition.

While being mature has a "passive", "calm", and "subtle" feeling to it.

Can you please distinguish the two? Perhaps an example might help. And can the two coexist at the same time in
a situation?


Thanks..

[thatoneguy250]

Being too serious and not being serious enough is relative to who youre talking to. Some people will think your jokes are corny or immature. I'd say find a girl who shares your sense of humor and has similar tastes and you can just be yourself.

[XxpaulmanxX]

I believe you have defined both of them really fine. In reality you can not have both of them at once unless if you are using the tactic cocky - funny or negging. What really happens is that most typical time i find is that both of them are the complete opposite in most situations. To find the line between them however, is that when i choose myself to be funny is near the beginning to bring the chemistry up a bit, unless all u want to do is be cocky - funny or neg at that person all the time. When i switch my sense of humor into maturity is when chemistry or intimicy is in the air. That is my line but in order to find yours you can either try mine or find it some other way.

[natural_selection7]

I guess it means that i should be able to moderate the two qualities? Don't go into being to funny or being to
serious? Avoid being extreme?

Can you give examples? I am a student for perhaps a classroom setup would be nice


Thanks.

[Andreas15]

Let me give you an example in two situations.
1) maturity: when your speaking with teacher you shouldnt joke all the time.One or two is ok in class
2)humour:with the girl sitting next to you and you make the boring lesson sound fun with humour

[fabr-78]

I'm an italian guy and I'm happy to write for the first time in this forum.
I think that this argument is very interesting, and could go beyond the general purpose of the forum (developing personal skills with women).

I don't believe that humour and maturity are two opposite qualities.. because maturity doesn't mean being serious! we must develope
both in our life and they can and must coexist! (it's great when this happens). I remember one of Arkady's videos, in which he told an exemple of maturity with women:
driving car in a safe and prudent manner; well you can drive safely and have sense of humour, making you and the woman laugh. This means that your behaviour can
be very good for the circumstances, and humour gives a spice to the situation. Humour and maturity don't exclude each other, on the contrary maturity is useful to control and spread humour. If one says a laughing thing in the wrong time and place, it can be unuseful or maybe dangerous. Instead a mature person knows when to says certain words, how to say them, which results could obtain, if words are hurting someone, and so on. You can understand the moment when you must be silent and the moment when you can joke and laugh without break, and make "crazy things" that could attract women. Humour can also be shown in circumstances when you must be mature, and if expressed in subtle and intellignet way it can be great (like making a sarcastic observation in the right moment during an exam or with customers if you are at work).

To remain in the main argument of the forum, if I'm speaking to a woman I don't think that showing my maturity means being serious, speaking about my good job and the fact that I always go to bed at eleven; this can be boring (I think I learned it really reading this website). Instead maturity is real action, you can joke and being "active" while bringing a girl to her house and wait that she is safe before to go, and avoiding to keep stereo aloud and make noise with the engine before to leave (and maybe you can also be at bed at eleven).

We simply have to concentrate on developing both qualities (with time and time.......)

How much did I write? However it's hard to write good in English soooooooooorry if I did errors.

[natural_selection7]

Wow. Thats an interesting reply. Thank you.

[JRround]

I think being mature is: knowing when you have to be serious.