It goes without saying that breaking up with someone you love is not easy. And the more you like someone the more painful it will be when you have to stop seeing someone who you really like and care about, and if your to be ex-partner s the kind of person you think you are not going to meet any time soon because there aren’t just many individuals out there, who will be that special to you. Losing a loved one inevitably breaks one’s heart and learning how to heal that broken heart is very important to our emotional health and to our ability to return to enjoying dating life promptly.
Indeed, we often have no choice but never see each other again, and therefore it’s worth knowing how to get over those break ups and continue moving forward with our lives with the right mindset, and not continuing drowning ourselves in self-pity or indulging in any kind of self destructive post-break-up behavior for too long after.
Here are the steps you can and you should take in order to get over any break-up quicker and in a more healthy manner:
1. Avoid harboring hope that you and your ex-partner will get back together sometimes in the future. This is the crucial time when you must demonstrate strength and reluctance in letting those thoughts get into your head. The longer you hope that you will get back together, the slower and the the harder your recover from break-up will be. Being strong now will most certainly pay off in the future.
2. Stop reminiscing on the wonderful times that you and your ex had while you were together. Such wonderful memories are great to have, and you should be thankful that you had those intense experiences and feelings. However, at this time, right after breaking up, these thoughts do nothing good to you and only aggravate your pain and prolong your recovery by making you feel that you sustained a major loss, and that your life is never going to be the same.
3. Stop thinking that your ex was one of a kind person. No matter how special he/she was, you own future dating life will show that your next love will be also very special in his/her own, unique way – this is just the reality of how love works. Your next lover will be different from the one you lost, but he will be special to you in his own way.
4. Realize and truly believe that whatever happens, happens for a reason and for your own best. This includes break-ups. Think about it – every time you have to throw away a great pair of old, worn-out shoes that felt more comfortable than any other shoes you have ever had, your next pair of shoes is often even more comfortable. Most people who lose a job eventually find a better one. This is a far reaching analogy, but the same applies to relationships. If you were taken out of your recent relationship by some great force, perhaps that force is trying to take you out of that relationship and put you back into the market, so that you start looking for and eventually find a partner who is even better for you and more compatible with you on all levels.
5. Perceive your recent break-up as a great opportunity to learn how to deal with such experiences and become a stronger and a more mature individual. Like any other challenging experience that pushes your emotional levels (such as employment termination, loss of a loved one to a terminal illness, etc…) breaking up and losing love today will “condition” you and will make your recovery from similar experiences in the future easier.
6. Do not perceive a relationship as an investment and your lost relationship as a waste of time just because you ended up breaking-up. Be grateful! Be grateful for having been granted the joy of love and affection of your former partner as long as your relationship lasted and don’t forget that some things are probably just not meant to last. There is no insurance against breaking up whether you have been together for one month or for 20 years. Just look around you. I surely don’t need to tell you how high the divorce rate is. Some people perceive it as a very negative by-product of the modern, western culture, but I would like to suggest to you that it is quite normal and even natural. Most people simply do not belong with each other in a romantic relationship. Most relationships end, most people who are dating, are bound to break up. There is nothing wrong with it – it’s an inevitable selection process and we all participate in it. Accepting it as a natural part of dating life is very important and can be quite effective in helping you overcome a painful break-up.
7. If you believe that you made certain mistakes in your recent relationship, whether they were the ones that caused the break-up or not, make sure you learn from those mistakes and move forward as a person who possesses a better understanding of himself and his interactions with romantic partners, and make sure that you don’t make the same mistakes in the future.
8. Lastly, continue living! Pursue your professional and social goals and don’t leave much space for boredom in your life. This is not the right time to “relax.” You will have plenty of time to relax once you are over your ex and perhaps once you met someone new.
Breaking up is a hard and demoralizing experience that can take a lot of life motivation out of a person. However, it can be at least in some ways a positive experience if you allow it to be. It can make you grow and become a stronger and a more attractive person. Make sure you take advantage of those valuable life lessons!
Further, it is important that you remember that the pain of breaking up is an emotion, and as such, it will not go away overnight. It will take time for your feelings to go away. But with conscious effort of keeping in mind the above points, you can make the process of overcoming and recovering from the break-up much faster and easier.
And to make your break up easier, make sure you read our tips on making your break-up easier.
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Can I suggest trying a new app called ExTexter? It allows you virtually text your ex and get the closure we all desire. You can vent, blame, express how much you miss them or whatever you are feeling and get a real response! Pretty cool. Android version is out Apple version is on the way soon!
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please help me out, pls advice
my email add. kumaryadavchina@gmail.com
Not to resurrect the comment section, but I thought I’d share my process:
1. Talk about it. Seriously, guys and girls. This is such a vital process that will help you either realize an epiphany or relieve your stress. If your friend or whomever you’re talking to knows the backgrounds of your situation, he/she will likely give you supportive advice instead of “you should do this to your ex”. With that being said, choose your listeners carefully…
2. Cry. Ya you sissy! Just kidding. I cried my face off in bed and in car (such a weird thing to do while trying to change lane), and that basically poured out all of my emotions that were bottled up for a few weeks prior to the final goodbye (so cheesy, but it helped me). Find a time of the day (right before sleeping is preferred) and just cry the hell out. Your body needs it, you need it, gosh, the world needs it.
3. Time. Do not rush this. You want to actively work on short-term goals so you can achieve the endgame (which is to move on gracefully), but you do not need to set a clock on this healing process. Everyone grieves and deals differently, so don’t worry about the time. You just make sure you ARE moving forward, though.
4. Keeping yourself busy/relaxing/restoring your balance. Find friends, go rage (within reasons), chill out, go to places, eat out, finish 5 seasons of “Scrubs” in one weekend, mow the lawn, walk the dogs, play some bball at your local gym…whatever it is, go do. Do not spend time alone excessively at home with brooding thoughts. You do need to learn how to be alone again in place where the ex was very…present at, but sticking around other than trying to heal is not a good reason to stay home.
5. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t like healing with the goal that “after healing, you will find a MUCH better partner”. More often than not, that objective turns into a vengeful slice against your ex because you may find yourself comparing the next partner to your ex-partner. Move forward with a general goal that your life is going to be better, whether in love or not, but don’t rely on the belief that you WILL find someone else. I don’t think that’s entirely therapeutic when you have to believe in love to find love. Perhaps I misread the concept, but I like the “will be happy on my own later on” concept working better for me.
I’m still recovering from the loss (the girl was one of the best lover/friend/sexy time partner I’ve ever had), but so far these are what I’ve realized so far.
Oh and lastly, #1 and #3 are crucial. DO NOT EXPECT and DO NOT WORSHIP.
Great points, especially number 5. If you broke up with someone who you thought was one of a kind and very special, chances are that it was probably true. The next person in your life might also be special, but in a different way. It won’t take away from how you felt about the person you broke up with. And resurrecting comments is perfectly fine and welcome. 🙂
Yes sir (or m’am), let’s not let the previous special moments with that special someone bleed into the next person, because that’s not fair to her/him or yourself.
Side note: if you must hang onto some kind of hope, know that nothing is permanent. Fix yourself so that you two may have a better chance if (a big IF because it’s usually frowned upon to hope during this stage of healing) a connection is made down the line.
Well said, Mark. Although often easier said than done.
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Great, great reading my friend. With practice I know I will heel
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james•11 minutes ago
I just told my girlfriend of 5 years that we need a break. we have lived together now for 3 yrs. she moved from new york to wyoming for me. away from her family. Alot has changed since then. We dont communicate with each other, even after all attempts. I almost feel like im not equal to her because she trys to prove that her way is always right. What should i do.
James, I am not sure I understand your question and what you are referring to as far as what to do. It sounds like you have made up your mind and you want to break up and move on.
It’s not just ezy to move on. .ol uh need is smtym n things wud gt btr
My wife broke up with me after being together for 31 years. Yet, 8 weeks after the announcement I can say that what’s being said above is so very very true. For instance the remark that instead of being sad and angry, you should be happy that you lived so many years together. It helps to make that mental jump.
And you learn indeed a lot about yourself and eventually you confess to yourself that there was indeed something wrong. And that is a relief.
it made me a stronger and better person, and I will start a new and better life. With a partner that fits better to my personality and needs. Instead of hanging on to someone who no longer fits my needs.
Thank you for the wise words. It is indeed very good advice.
Thank you for your kind words and I am glad that your actual experience confirms what’s in the article. This should make it all the more useful to many other people who find themselves in the same emotionally challenging situation.
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The things are really painful after a break up. I was in a relationship with a guy since 7 years. These years flew by donno how. We were happy, contended even though it was a long distance relation. Then came the time of giving a name to our relation. As i was pressurized by my parents to get married, i spoke abt him(love marriages are not accepted till date). But to my delight, my dad took the things very positively and immediately agreed to my choice:) he just said me that let him talk at his home. Months passed by but he didnt said abt our relationship at home. But 1 day he gathered guts and said. But his parents disagreed abt bringing a girl frm other caste into their lives!!!!! We have already decided that wewould marry with our parents wishes. But considering the conditions now, he said that we cannot marry as his parents are not ready. I was really devastated. My world came to a standstill. How can we forget the years we spent together???
Its getting really tough
It’s hard for me to advise since you are in a very different cultural background. If he cannot insist on what he wants over his parents wishes, this will be painful indeed, but you will have to work toward getting over it. It won’t be easy and it will take time, but you must do it. You must remember that there are never any guarantees in life. Some people break up after a few months, while others divorce after being married for 10, 15, or 20 years. That’s just the reality of life. It’s not a bad thing or a good thing – it just is.
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Yee truee, but i dont want ask her straight up cause she will get mad and all. Like at the same time i am giving her space and bring really patient about this. She has starting to text me and all but it feels different.
Okay i see. I give her some space and she been texting here and there i see her too its because we both go to college together. Our convo is not tht bad. I know i cant be worried and all abt her guy bestfriend but this guy is been putting work and her b day is coming up, and guy has given her gifts and all. Also theses two dated before, but l feel like it wasnt too serious cuz she doesnt know exactly when they started dating. She told me this when we were together and i asked her how u guys broke up she said i dont know. They been dating for 6 months. I feel like shes giving hope to this guy.
Thanks for the update. Well, use your best judgment and just make sure you are not being played and you don't get hurt by her being confused about what and who she wants.
There is nothing really you can do except give her time and perhaps not do anything to violate her trust again. A mistake would be to be pushy or be begging to spend more time with her. Give her space, whether it's few days or a few weeks.
And if there is another guy who wants her, she will have to decide who she wants and you simply can't worry about that.
Oh i see i understand that. But what should i do to get her back, i mean we not officaily broke up. The thing is i really dont know how to get her trust back, cause she said once i get her trust she will be back with me. Another thing is her guy bestfriend loves her too. Since she single now she might move on from me and might go out with her bestfriend. I dont like seeing that happen. Shes been chilling wit him alot lately
Thanks for sharing your experience. The article pretty much sums up what you need to do. Trying to convince her to want to be with you if she doesn't isn't something you should be doing however. You can't bring someone back by trying to talk them into it with any logic or rational reasoning. In fact, the harder you try the less likely it is to happen.
My girl and I are on a break. We have been dating for 3 months but technically the last two weeks of the 3 months was on and off The reason being is that she doesn't trust me because i followed a random girl on instagram but she followed me first but i showed the pics of the random girl and she didnt say anything that time. One week after she found out i followed this girl and she got emotional and heartbroken. She thought i was cheating on her. My girl has rough past experience of been cheated on and been used. I am her sixth guy she been dating. All of her ex has cheated on her and she was really hurt. But I told her it wasn't intentional to hurt her like that but she didnt really believe me. I right away unfollowed the girl. After incident happen she wanted to break up with me but I apologize to her many times and i cried front of her saying I want you back and all. She some what gave me a chance, but ever since the incident happen it hasnt been the same. She straight up told me that its not gonna be the same and she doesn't trust me. After the incident its been on and off we text normally and talk normal. then all of a sudden she started giving one word texts, our phone convo were awkward. I asked her whats wrong she said my love towards you isnt big anymore and she told me that she was fake loving me and she did this twice after the incident happened. Now she told me she wants a break cause shes too hurt and wants to think and she said that if you dont understand how i feel then i cant do anything.She also said i always messing up every since the incident happen but shes not telling me exact. Our communication is weak. I kept on telling her we can work it out and all but she didn't allow it much. She said straight up to me saying i dont trust or love you and i am unhappy with you.This really took it to my heart really hard. My girl was really obsessed with me she loved me soo much she asked me out and we got hooked up within two weeks and she promised me she wont leave me and all and i promised her that too. I asked her "you lost all love me after the incident" and she said "yeah i did i am not obsessed with you anymore its just i like you now". I asked her if i can get that love back she said maybe>.I really love this girl with all my heart and right now i am soo much pain. I haven't sleep properly eat properly i feel weak and alone, and i been crying ever since we were on a break. its a week and half now. She said wants to be single for a bit and she also said once i trust you i will get back with you and that gave me hope. but right now i don't know how to get her trust back cause i never was hiding anything from her and i have been honest with her. . I need help from you guys cause i am really hurt right now and i feel like i have no hope.cause she started talking to her first ex and she started flirting with one guy and she gave her number to him too. Ever since the break i have been texting here and there but she gives me one word texts I honestly don't know what to do.. Her friends told me to give her space and time but its soo difficult cause i feel like she would lose interest on me but i trying to do. Her friends told me don't worry things will work out, but yet i still feel like it wont. Right now i am really sacred that shes gonna find a better man or sleep with one. Please help me guys i am so heartbroken and i really want her back soo bad. I am soo attached to her. I cant stop thinking of her.i don't want to lose her. i want work things out here. I am really sorry i wrote to much, i tried to sum up what going on and how i feel sorry once again i just really need help !. Shes has alot of guy friends and she ahs a guy bestfriend. but i stilll trust her cause she tells me if any guys are hitting on her. I also wrote a long ass face book msg to her how i feel about her and how i dont want to lose her. its longer than this. I send it to her and she just seen it. Its soo hard to make her understand and she said she changed that shes not old self where guys step on her and play around. By the way her birthday is on August 14 and i really dont know what get for her cause i dont want to be awkward and all. I need your guys help please and thank you !
My Name is Harmand Amadeus from California. I am here to give testimony on how got my wife back. My wife left me for no reason 3 years ago. She moved out with another man, i felt like killing myself, my life became very bitter and sorrowful. Then 1 day, a friend of mine told me about a great spell caster that is very good and does not even charge for his services, he said he gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won. I didn't believe it because I've worked with so many of them and it didn't work. He begged me further so i decided to try this great spell caster called DR. OTIAGBE and i contacted him via his email: {Otiagbe@yahoo.com}. I still didn't believe. I used the spell he gave me and the next day i received a call from my darling wife called Rugina last month. She apologized and came back to me. I'm very happy now. Thank you DR. OTIAGBE, You can reach him via email: {Otiagbe@yahoo.com}
Hi ..
I am here to jus share this grief of mine..
I fell for this guy in the process of getting over my first breakup.
I was so lost and divastated and this guy he took advantage of all these feelings..
Eventually i realised he never loved me he jus wanted my body.Coz once i was under his control he started looking for other girls.
wen i questioned him he says he never gave me any commitment and it was my mistake to expect it. i accepeted all this nad tried to move on wen he brokeup with his girlfriend and came back to me
As i always loved him my heart just thought he loved me so he came back to me. He was with me for a yaer and now he is dating another girl and is in plans of giving her commitment.
N i am finding it very difficlut to accept it. I don want this to happen again. coz wen he ditched me for the first time i was strong enough to accpet it but now i got more attached to him and i donnot hav guts tp accept it.
I always believed in love would win love. But no itz not right.
I am lost n all lone drinched in pain nad he is there living is life to the fullest.
If god did this for a reason i wan to know wat reason it cud be..coz i don see a point in all this.
He loves me but he cant marry me coz i hav a dusky skin.
Is this what love is all about.
HELLO. I am Achinta. Recently I got break up from my lover. Actually I made break up.
We had 2 years love relation. She is in 2nd year of Degree in commerce at college. In the beginning she always think about me and my feelings. Whenever I told her to meet with me, she ran for me to meet. But after 1 year she became changed and she made distance from me which is very hurtful to me. I love her a lot. I can not live a single second without her. I love her till now. But I could not continue the relation for her behavior which is changed by time.
We have never done sex. I approached her after 1 & half year for it but she refused. . I didn't mind. I have tried to adjust on that matter. I just want to be close to her and to take close to me also. . Only a hug is enough for me for a day.
The main thing is she had a FB account where she had a lot of boyfriends & girlfriends.She talked very much with boys late night. Thats for I told her to close FB for our good relation where no one could not interfere. Then she promised me and close the FB account. But without my knowledge in this year I saw a day that she again open FB and chat late night with boys which was very much hurt me. She break the promise.
I think promise is the way where Two persons believe them a without thinking any type of misunderstanding.
Whatever, I tried to hide the matter of FB and didn't want to tell her. I just requested to meet with me for a day. But she refused. and told that she didnt feel love with me then and didnt want to meet also.
I am shocked then. . I never think of any other girl in my dream without her. She was always with me. and whatever I am angry or loving in all thing she was present all time. I never told her that I hate her.
I wish to marry her. That's for I met her with my mom & dad. My parents also loved her and agreed my relation. . Thats for I told her to talk with her mom & dad about me & our relation. I also want to do court marriage if their parents agreed or not. . She is now telling that she cant talk with her parents and she want to complete her graduation degree. After that she can tell. . . But presently I feel that she was dominating me…
She never think about me and my feelings. Presently I am thinking that she cheated me and played with me and my feelings. . . I am very soft hearted. I cannot forget her. I love her. What I can do now. . ? Plzzzz help me and show the way to overcome from this relation and my feelings. . .
Thanks for sharing your story. Clearly, the girl is not as interested in you as you are in her. There is nothing you can do to change it. Your strong feelings are not being reciprocated. You cannot force her to feel something she is not, so you must move on with your life and leave her alone. As hard as this might sound for you to do, there is no other way to handle it.
For future reference, asking a girl to close their Facebook account might be too much, and many would not appreciate such an extreme restriction. You should be able to clear whether she wants to be with or to talk to other without the necessity of taking her access to Facebook away altogether.
Hi Marc. I found exaholics.com very helpful. You may want to check it out.
Hi everyone,I have just read all of the posts and I am in tears! My life for the past 10 yrs has been,I don't know how to put it, I guess lonely and loveless. I'm 26 I ve been with my fiance for 10 yrs and we have 2 sons. Our oldest 7 has AS too and my youngest 3 has autism. I feel so lonely in my family, none of them understand me at all and don't try. I feel like i ve lost myself. I is much harder to deal with my Fiance then my kids of course, because I shouldn't have to parent him. I don't want to parent 3 people, I want love. He doesn't even feel love I don't think! I'm very sad thinking that I am putting my self in this position, to never put myself 1st or get anything I need or want it life. My family nor his gets it and they say that because he works and takes care of his family with money I should be happy enough. I wish there were groups where iI live but I haven't found and yet. I'm very happy to find other people out there dealing with this, because living life like this is very lonely. I would love to start talking with some of you,all things happen because great zalilu was very great to me,after he help me getting back my man every thing have be working fine.Please you can contact he for help so you can be happy in your relationship.Email him at;greatzalilu@gmail.com
I have a testimony to share with you only if you are willing to listen to me, My name is Williams Edwin from London. I have been having problems in some aspect of my life which almost led me to commit suicide, several time I applied for jobs and each time I was turn down, it come to a point that my Wife left me for another Man and this made me to have high blood pressure (B.P). One day as I was looking for job online in the internet I came across a testimony of a woman how a great spell caster called VOODOO help her with his spell to solve her problems so I decided to contact the Spell caster (Voodoo) by mail. I narrated all my story to him and the only thing he told me was don't worry because your problems are solve already. for you have made the right choice of contacting me. I filled his form and provide the item he requested from me for the preparation of the spell to get me a good job, bring my ex back and also to heal my high blood pressure (B.P) and today my brothers and sisters that are reading this I am very glad to say that Voodoo is a God on earth. I have a good Job now, My wife is back and I am healed of my High Blood Pressure (B.P). Do you have problems and you think all hope is gone, I advise you to contact VOODOO today and your problem will be solve just as he solve mine ok. Voodoo email is: voodoolovespelltemple@hotmail. com. this african temple is genuine I swear. WOW AM ON TOP YOU CAN BE TOO.INSTEAD OF FALLING FOR THOSE SCAMS THAT CALL THEIR SELF SPELL CASTERS, VOODOO YOU I WILL CONTINUE TO THANK YOUR TEMPLE.
Hello to every one out here, am here to share the unexpected miracle that happened to me three days ago, My name is Edwin Wallace i live in United State,and I`m happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she did not love me anymore So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited.(supremetemple@hotmail.com}, So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day what an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who did not call me for the past seven {7}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster . So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {supremetemple@hotmail.com},i f you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back. So thanks to Dr Papa for bringing back my wife,and brought great joy to my family once again.(supremetemple@hotmail.com}, Thanks..
sara think abt dis once..
death is not the solution of every problem..who knows after death you will get relief..ahh??
give ueself time to heal..and decide ur priorities in lyf..and then move on.
It's important to remember that there can be no guarantees in life. Just because you are crazy about that guy doesn't mean that he feels the same about you. It's important to hope for the best, but also be aware that when it comes to love and mutual desire to be together there are no guarantees.
to all m giving a suggestion if u dnt have the power to accept ur love stop hurting otherz then…
i m totally broken into tat much pieces that no one can combine my pieces i dnt want anything i just want to leave all the things. i cried almost the whole day and night but i dnt find any peace i spend the whole night staring at the walls m too tired guyz… m totally broken .. i cant survive in this world bcz this is not my kind of place i want to gooooooooo… never want to come back .. the previous destroyed me completely i want peace i want to go… i want to say him that what was my fault bt i dnt want to hurt him …. now i dnt want him i just want too leave
i loved the person more than any thing else in the whole world but he is not ready to accept me . he is sincere but i dnt know what to do . i have suffered a lot which is that much pain ful that i cant narrate . i dnt want to lose him but now i loose my self i m get rid of my life i want to take rest its not easy for a girl to break up with a person bcz if the truly love someone they cant bear the loss. if he is sincere i m sincere than why this all happened to me what i have done ?? what was my fault i even said this to god so many times but he even dosent reply. now i dnt want anything i want to die to end up all the miseries i cnt bear more.. i m human not a pet … so which eveyone can play the game of accepting and than throwing i jst wnt my grave
Hi, I am also going through a painful break up of 5 years with my gf, we used to stay together in a live in relationship for the last 4 years and now I am in Paris for my higher studies and she is in India, we were having some problems for the last few days just a normal fight and today I got a call from my gf sis that she is with one guy who is coming to her flat for the last 4 days and stays till 4 am in the morning and when I called her she was ignoring me and saying to me that give her some time of 2 to 3 days and she will call me till then not to call her and when she got to know that i know about that guy, she gave me the explanation that he is just a friend and nothing else and even that guy has a gf too so my question was, why she didn't tell me anything, she answered she needed some time to explain me things and told me that guy is coming for dinner that's all. He also said that nothing is happening we are just friends and nothing else.
I told her that I can't be in the relationship like this so i broke up with her and she is crying and saying that nothing has happened and she loves me a lot, she is ready to quit the job and all but I am still confused what to do although I don't wanna leave her but on the otheer hand I have a fear that what if she does again then…?? I would appreciate if anyone can help me coz i am broken into pieces and I could not move on, I almost have 20000 pics of us together, how can I forget those moments spent with her….Please give your suggestion…..!!!
Hello, Ash. It sounds like you may be overreacting. Do you have any reason to believe that she cares about that guy romantically or that she is in any way involved with him. If not, and if the only reason you are upset with her is because she didn't tell you about him, breaking up with her is going a little too far, and you should be able to resolve this by simply talking about being more open with each other. Perhaps one reason she didn't tell you about her male friend is because she knows you to be the jealous and suspicious type, and that prevents her from being more open and honest with you… This is something for you to think about and consider.
No she does not like him and we talked today and now everything is fine between yes, we sought out our tension and problems and so everything is fine now so thanks a lot for the prompt reply…I really appreciate that…
My pleasure. Glad to hear it.
You should follow up the advice above, not expect instant relief and let the time do its work. Focusing on your finals might be a challenge now, but you must do what you can be focused. If you don't do as well on your exams because of this, it will only make you feel worse, and you should not allow this to happen.
i had a break up recently n i m really upset plus i m having final year exams wich i cant just let go….i m having hard time to focus on anything ..dis emotional trauma is taking a toll on my health n my studies wat should i do?
i m not able to let go his feelings!!!
I dated a guy years ago for about a year. I didn't see him for about 7 years, he saw a good friend of mines and repeatedly asked for my number, I told my friend give me his, on Thanksgiving of 2011 we talked and it has been 2 years being back together. Here's where the plot thickens. I saw a text from a girl while we were in the car and I asked what was up with that he said nothing, me being a classic storerI let it pass, the next occasion I got his phone and seen that very text I asked about and confronted him and he says it was nothing, later in the months to come this same female is his facebook friend. Then I find he's using another cell phone to text sexual things to her the week of our 2 year anniversary. Nevertheless I am devastated because he has only done the sexual thing to me once in two years. Also I gave him a second chance with me after years. When everything blew up I said some things to him other than calling jim a child of god
We haven't had contact so far in a week, but I'dreaming about him hurting so bad constantly thinking about him, crying, praying, at times feeling a little less than. I don't understand why and how can a man do this but you love me and we are together everyday. Why lies for months and months to my face when you know I kinda know the deal. I just want to know does he feel any pain or miss me we were together for two years our second time around. The first time we were together for l year.
Sorry to hear about your pain. If a guy only had sex with you once in a past year or even if a regular, healthy guy only has sex with you once a month, chances are that either he is not attracted to you all that much or he has someone on a side (or both). This is something you should keep in mind for the future.
There is nothing you could have done to prevent what happened. Many, if not most, guys are prone to sexual adventures, novelty, variety and affairs. I don't want to justify with evolutionary reasons, etc…. but regardless of the reasons, that's just how it is.
This doesn't mean that you should assume that every guy is going to lie and cheat, but you must be ready for this unlikely possibility in any relationship. It's hard to hear, but once you recognize this, it will be easier to deal with it in the future.
Hi everyone. this is the first time im ever doing something like this. im 22 and my bf is 18,well ex bf. we been dating for a year, and he broke up with me on friday, after begging him to stay. he just couldnt handle our arguing espeically my stubborness, i told him i can work on it and i have, i tried and actually argued less till he came to his senses that he cant do it anymore coz its gonna happen again. i feel that all my life i been trying to find someone who will just be there for me wen im on my worst, all my ex’s cheated on me and today all of them wants me back and cannot give me a reason for y. My recent ex,the love of my life was prob just too young to handle me, we brought out the best in each other. but he was a ticking time bomb when it came to rough times. i feel so insecure and i know its my fault he left but we ddnt have an argument wen he broke up with me, he just decided, and he told me his feelings changed. i am so crushed, i never felt so loved in my life, im a simple person that dont have expectations, just someone who i can have to share my happiness with. today he wants nothn to do with me, he totally resents me like i cheated, i never been unfaithful to him.i am having a hard time dealing with this and its not the first time i been hurt, he assured me theres no one else. i am taking it hard but im not one to clinging on the depressing feeling for long, i move on very quickly. i am worried that cannot keep a guy and i been reflecting for years on y they leave and what i lack or what i do and dont do that they leave. my parents were never married and dad was not rly around. maybe that plays a role but i dont allow it to get to me coz i used to have daddy issues and now have the need to cling on the guy im with, i go out of my way and im a good gf, i give freedom and never kept him from anythn..the worst part of everythn is that the day after he left me was my sisters brial shower and is getting married this weekend, only god knows how i got thru that day..i think im so hurt because i took a chance to love again but now i cant even stand the site of looking at a man. i know what to do but im so affraid to move on this time. i wana spend my life with someone who doesnt wanna be with me anymore.
Hi, Nita. Thanks for sharing your story. As much as it would be nice if our partners were willing to stay around and wait for us to work our our issues, it's rarely the case. Many, if not most, people don't bother and would rather move on unless you have been married for a while, have children, etc… Begging someone to stay with you is never productive, so there is no point in doing that.
The fact that you are aware of your stubbornness problem is very good, as recognizing you have a problem is the first step to solving it. Whether you get back together with that guy or not, this is the time to take a long, hard look at your behavior and any mistakes you have made that lead to break up and work on figuring out how you can avoid the same problems in the future. You may not be able to turn back the clock but there are a lot of things you can do today to have better relationships with the future. Thanks.
thank you so much…Today i feel better than yesterday. I actaully asked my previous ex’s what i lacked and what i did and did not do, they all said i am stubborn but nothing they cudnt handle, my stubbornness wasnt the case in previous relationships. i think that my ex is still finding himself as his only 18, and maybe still sensitive in handling arguments and not ready for me. I cant thank you enough for ur reply. Im in the healing process now and its going abit better. i have a huge support system from friends and family.. he is however and sadly the only guy i put my everythn into and gave him everythn,went out of my way for him aswel..
i write down how i feel b4 i go to bed coz thats wen i usually get emotional and then cant sleep, last night i took off our pictures on my wall, told myself “TONIGHT I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO SLEEP” and i slept right thru, this morning i woke up with a dream of him coming to me saying he wants me back, i woke up and almost cried but i blocked it out by saying loudly “No,i need to stop”..it actaully helps. I think i use my stubborness to defend mself from being overpowerd in an argument and i can control it and i have been doing well but b4 he could realise that, he broke up with me and left me shattered.
My pleasure Nita. What you experience is very common to dealing with losing your first big love. It's almost an inevitable stage of dating life and growing up. It will take time for you to get better so don't expect to get better overnight and let the time do its thing.
I lost my husband to another woman 3 years ago after 4 years of marriage . We had a lovely hard to cope . I wished I did not loved him and that I could move on but I couldn’t . I never knew how to stop feeling like bad. I degraded myself begging him to come home all to no avail. I became very worried and needed help. As I was browsing through the internet one day, I came across a comment by katty white that suggested that Dr. satur helped her solve her marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he did a spell for me. 3 days later, my husband came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my family are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr. satur. If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works, I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you. if you have any problem contact him, I give you 100% guarantee that he will help you, This are his details E-mail: dreemakalovespell@gmail.com or dreemakalovespell@gmail.com
Thank you all for reading.marriage but he started a relationship with a co worker who chased after him . He is living away near his work and he refused to talk to me or to come home . I was so devastated and found it
Its not really easy to stop seeing somebody, specially if it's your best friend's sister. So yeah, fuck me.
Hay, Not feeling good at all, got break up with my love and cant stop myself from thinking of her…
dont know what to do
hI Marce ,
sorry !!! but always trust on god , i hope all is well just be relax never think to much focus on your health 🙂 never think to deeply , i know you are good fighter so be their as you ar . & don't ask for advice anyone just make sure its your life You have to tackle & you can ..
😉 Living in the favorable & unfavorable !
Situation is called -"part of life ,"
But smiling in all those situation is called –
"ART OF LIFE:…..:)
Take great care of yourself!
I more or less agree with these tips, though you can't really stop your mind from reminiscing on the good times (or bad) you had with your ex. Breaking up because they cheated on you is the worst type of break up because of the betrayal factor. I read elsewhere that it helps to spend time with friends but avoid dating someone straight away.
i sincerely loved a man for past two years. life was so beautiful in this two years. the days went on………… but suddenly he said me to get away from his way. i asked the reason and he said that he had to achieve something and not to waste time in loving me. i was really shocked when he said me. i don't know how to come away from this issue.
This is indeed a good lesson for d day. I promise to put it all to work
thanks tarak,
u r rite life isnt fr women.i should help my parents thr's big job awaiting fr me.i hope soon i ll get away frm my worries. i won blame on my gal rather i ll blame on situation made us to break.she strong girl, i wish my gal who gonna marry in couple of months.guys everyone move along wit thr situation nothing to point out when cheat up..
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