Sexual domination is one of the most fun and arousing things that a couple can do in bed which is fundamental to sexual desire and attraction. And, those who believe that there is something inherently wrong or perverse with sexual power play are really missing out, especially if they have a desire for it but choose to suppress it for whatever reason.
Domination between partners can be exercised in so many different and exciting ways ways – from the most subtle verbal domination of teasing each other and giving each other a hard time in a playful manner, to the more overt physical domination with or without pain. Her are just a few random examples of how both sexes use domination to spark up sexual tension:
Examples of How Women Dominate MenĀ
Outside of Bed
An attractive woman who wears high heels and any other provocative outfit basically dominates every guy around her by pretty much stating: “Look what I have got. You want it but you can’t have it, or… can you?” Stilettos and high heeled boots can also be perceived as some type of Amazonian weapon. Actually, it’s quite possible that anything a woman does or wears to make herself look more sexy – from tight dresses to anklets – is in a way her way of dominating, because she increases the men’s desire for her without making herself available to every guy.Ā This is a clear power play that is arousing to the men around her.
Stripping in front of a guy slowly, lap dances, bending over or dancing seductively in front of a guy is yet another way of sexual dominationĀ – using your beauty and your body language to make a man desire you without (immediately) giving him what he wants.
In Bed
Teasing a guy in bed, sitting on his face, edging him and not allowing him to cum when he wants to, challenging the guy not to ejaculate while trying to make him cum, slapping, kicking and more extreme physical games are also nothing other than sexual domination, whether or not it involves whips, handcuffs and other dom / sub / bdsm accessories.
Men Dominating Women
Outside of Bed
A man can dominate in ways that are as subtle as planning dates all on his own,Ā and taking charge of things by making small, every-day decisions such as where he and his date will go and what they will be doing. Even paying on a date is in a way an act of domination, which communications to a woman something along the following lines: “I can afford it, and I am taking care of you today. I don’t need your contribution. It doesn’t matter if I have more money than you are or not; today I will act like do.”
In Bed
Pulling a woman’s hair while making out with her or having sex with her, pushing her to the wall in the heat of passion when kissing her, pushing her down on her knees and toward his penis, holding a woman by her throat during sex, dirty or even demeaning talk in bed, and playing out all types of forceful sex fantasies, are all just different kinds of way in which men enjoy dominating women, while women enjoy the same.
So why is domination so exciting to us? Without getting into the science of human behavior and sexuality to deeply, it’s clear that it all comes down to imbalance or polarity. This type of imbalance is fundamental to sexual attraction and passion. While equality is a noble value in many areas of life, when it comes to sex and intimacy, inequality is the key to creating a spark and maintaining it. Imbalance is at the core of romantic courtship and pursuit at all stages – from the very first steps, when the guy is calling or texting the girl he met way more than she does, to him undressing her, while he still has his clothes on. When it comes to sex, things are not equal and they shouldn’t be. The moment you seek a 50/50 arrangement in any aspect of your relationship, you run the risk of turning a romantic and sexual relationship into some type of business partnership.
